How We Organized Our BBQ party

 

We have our lovely country house near the sea. Last year we upgraded our second home with new furniture, but still we didn’t like them. I wanted to change the design completely. You know, sometimes it can happen to every woman and we have a big desire to throw away old things and replace them with new ones. I guess, this is also the effect of spring, because we’ve just woken from the long winter sleep. Moreover, some of our chairs were broken. Anyway, we had to look for new ones. They expected to be modern and comfortable. We simply entered “The most fashionable furniture of 2017 year” to a Google and came across Adirondack Chair. That was the easiest way and we usually buy things from the Internet.  It seems to me that time is precious I don’t want to spend it in the shop. This is ridiculous.  If I don’t like the product I can send it back.

Anyway, they are really amazing and there are different types of these chairs. Everyone is able to find something for his own taste, because they are presented in different colors, sizes, materials. You can also observe different prices from 50-400$. It depends for which purposes you buy these chairs and, of course, how rich you are. As we don’t have problems with money and we planned to make our country house the best place, we decided to buy POLYWOOD South Beach model. Just look how beautiful they are! I can’t catch my eyes from them.  They honestly declare “you get what you pay for”. I completely satisfied with the quality. I haven’t noticed any problem with them. I am sure it will remain the same even after years of using. The style is so nice, so that I will never get bored, I don’t want to change them anymore. How wonderful! I just simply changed my design with those chairs. I even didn’t want to buy something else, except flowers and food.

The menu was varied. I prepared well for this special event in order to surprise my friends. They know I am not good in cooking, but I hiddenly joined the course, so now I am like a professional chef. I want to point out tossed salad, sandwiches from the grill, BBQ ribs and grilled veggies. Finally, they liked my dishes and said it was extremely delicious.

This evening was marvelous. I got many compliments from my friends. The excellent food and new chairs definitely made our party pleasurable. I was so happy!

Please tell me, how you prepare for BBQ party? Do you want to buy the same chairs for your home?

How to Monitor Baby’s Movement 

Being a mother is a tough

Whether you are a mom or not you should definitely understand me. Have you ever faced with the problem of being in two places simultaneously? Probably “YES” if you have a little baby. It’s not an easy task to control everything around. And don’t think that I am lazy or whatever. I love my baby and I care too much about her. I just want to make it a little bit easier for me. I got very nervous every time, when I leave her and go to the kitchen in order to prepare some food.

This week’s research has inspired me to write a simple comment of using a Comfort Cam. After struggling for the whole month, I suddenly understood that I must find a way. But how can I make it? I thought that, maybe, I should find a babysitter? Fortunately, I kept this consideration on hold and found an alternative way. Well, how is that happening? I came across the advert from a social media, which linked me to the right website. To my surprise, it was exactly the thing I was looking for with a very price. I ordered it and after now I am able to monitor a baby by myself! Only imagine, I monitor my baby with the app using the Wifi. I am not good in technology at all, but even for me it wasn’t so difficult. Now you can simply set up this magic cam and get the video as well as photos right on the screen. All you need is to just download and a specific app and have a wireless connection in your house. Sounds good, isn’t it? I don’t need to worry anymore and this is great that I can stop nervous about the safety of my child for a while. My friends usually ask me “How is that possible?” and I reply, “With the growing of modern technology it became a reality”. Moreover, there are many other electronic devices that are able to make your life happier, but for now I would like to focus on this excellent device.

I Can Speak with her being anywhere

I don’t want to write about the detailed instructions, because it’s really easy to get used to it – nothing is complicated. I’d rather tell you more about the functionality. I guess, I should point out the other important function of this camera, it is the night vision. I can check what she is doing at night with the help of it. I can speak with her being far and hear her sweet voice. Oh, how I love it! With a comfort cam I feel that I am always with my daughter, and I know that my girl feels the same. Time is flying, she is growing. Day by day I admire the way how my baby is changing and my camera records every single moment of her wonderful life.

“Necessity is the mother of invention”

This is really great that people invented such a wonderful thing! When I am far and see that my baby is playing and smiling, I feel myself as the happiest woman on this earth! It allows me to feel myself more relaxed and enjoy the atmosphere, even when I am far from her. This means that I can plan my daily routine in A more productive and convenient way.
Finally, no one can deny that camera makes your life happier and safer. I am more confident and I don’t afraid to leave her alone in the room, because I know that I will be able to monitor her with the help of the app on my mobile phone. And if she cries I will quickly come and hug her.
It’s worth every penny! This stuff works very well and it never lets me down. I am planning to use this helpful camera in the future!

~Still Struggling~

After struggling through this past week, I’m finding a little strength  to write again. Actually,I’m truly feeling like I’m being driven to put this all down on paper. Well, virtual paper…

Unfortunately the hopeful optimism I felt in my last post didn’t last long. I find myself going through valleys of wonderful, awesome highs and scary, dark lows with a lot of twist and turns and tears in between.

While my love of cooking has returned, I’m very sad that nothing else really has yet. I write down recipes, take pictures of food, and sing and dance all while doing that, but when I sit down to work with it, all the joy just goes away again. I can’t yet bring myself to edit my pictures or work with crafts or even look at my blog. I had no idea that I lost so much in this past year just from one devastating event. I was truly hoping that by the time 2015 arrived, all the hurt and pain would be gone and I would be moved on to something bigger and better for me. That’s not the case at all.

I’m not divorced yet because I cannot agree to the ridiculousness of the “terms”. That’s all I can focus on right now, besides being scared to death of potentially becoming homeless. The way in which he left me and the living conditions in which he left me in do not make for me being very agreeable to his “terms”.

If you read my last post (I’m Still Here), you know he left me for a married whore (and they are now living together). What I didn’t share and haven’t shared with hardly anyone is the living conditions in which we lived in. I’m ashamed of this house and had been for quite a long time – hence the reason we never invited anyone to our house. But now, I feel like I need to share this to get it off my chest. I can no longer feel guilty for the conditions of this place as I never was the one who had the income needed to make any repairs. I still don’t have the income to fix it, but even if I did, I no longer care about this place. I want out. I wanted out of this house for years.

You see, one of the “terms” of the divorce is that he originally wanted me to pay HALF the mortgage to stay here. Uh, I couldn’t help pay when you lived here, I don’t know what makes you think I can now. I mean, yes, I do have 3 jobs now, but my priority is to save money to GET OUT!!! ….Sorry, I digressed there…. Then he reduced the “terms” to $200 a month so that he can put some away for possible repairs. I lost a gasket in my brain when I read the words “possible repairs”.

This house was falling apart on the day he left me. There are numerous roof leaks, most of my appliances don’t work (I haven’t been able to cook in an oven for over 3 years now, but he graciously added in the “terms” that I can have the appliances…), most of the light fixtures half work (I use a heat lamp in my bedroom for light), the plumbing barely works (I am down to one bathroom that functions), and most disturbing/embarrassing of all is that this place is over ridden with bugs. None of that has changed or gotten worse since he left. Yes, there are holes in the walls placed there by all three of our kids over the years we lived here. The house does have typical wear and tear from 10 years of living life. Half of the mess still laying around everywhere is his.  This is what he left me in when he walked away that night.

When I last posted, I was working 5 jobs. Now I’m down to 3. The kitchen manager position I had was taken away from me when they hired a new restaurant manager and then they reduced my hours to 10 a week and reduced my pay to just minimum wage. I politely handed in my uniform…. The Summer Feeding program was just for the summer, obviously. So with these 3 jobs (including a promotion to Manager In Training in food services!!!) my income has improved, but not to the point of being able to be completely independent.

I traded him my car that I loved for one that he bought as I couldn’t afford a car payment. He kept telling me he wished he could pay the car off and just give it to me. Whatever. The reality is that I can’t afford to pay for a home AND a car. I’m scared that I can’t even afford a place to live either. Well, I could afford somewhere to live but then I wouldn’t be able to eat or put gas in the paid-for car. <<Sigh>>

I’ve looked into the Section 8 program – it could take up to 2 years before being approved!!! I can’t wait that long. It’s imperative that I’m out of this hell hole before the end of 2015!!! I just pray that a way will be placed in front of me that will work.

If nothing else over this past year, I’ve learned a lot more about faith, compassion, gratitude, and humility. I still have a lot of grief and hurt to overcome as I found out this past holiday week, but I have also learned that the only way to heal from the pain is to actually go through it. Rascal Flatts’ song, “Let It Hurt”, spoke to me so perfectly early on after he left.  Here’s the chorus:

“So let it hurt, let it bleed
Let it take you right down to your knees
Let it burn to the worst degree
May not be what you want, but it’s what you need
Sometimes the only way around it
Is to let love do it’s work
And let it hurt
Yeah, let it hurt”

I know I’m going to be okay, it’s a just a long road getting there. I am still here and still yearn to find the joy in the things I used to love doing. In the meantime, loyal readers, please just keep me in your thoughts and prayers. I don’t know when I’ll write again, but hopefully it will be soon and with a whole new beginning in front of me.

Breaking Beautiful Blog Tour – Character This or That

Today, I am welcoming Andrew of Breaking Beautiful by Jennifer Shaw Wolf, to give his answers to a list of this or that pairings!

Night or Day: Night. I’m kind of a night owl. I get my best work/thinking done long after my mom thinks I should be asleep.

Rain or Snow: I’m going to have to go with rain. Have you ever tried to maneuver a wheelchair in the snow Read more

Review: Kiss the Morning Star

The summer after high-school graduation, a year after her mother’s tragic death, Anna has no plans – beyond her need to put a lot of miles between herself and the past.  With forever friend Kat, a battered copy of Kerouac’s DHARMA BUMS, and a car with a dodgy oil filter, the girls set out on an epic road trip across the USA.  Maybe somewhere along the way they’ll prove or disprove the existence of God. Maybe they’ll even get laid . . .
It’s a journey both outward and inward. Through the Badlands and encounters with predatory men and buffalo. A crazy bus ride to Mexico with a bunch of hymn-singing missionaries. Facing death, naked in the forest with an enraged grizzly bear . . . Gradually, Anna realizes that this is a voyage of discovery into her own self, her own silent pain – and into the tangled history that she and Kat share. What is love? What is sexual identity? And how do you find a way forward into a new future – a way to declare openly and without fear all that lies within you?

 

I fell in love with the cover of this book, which made me want to read it without even reading the summary. When I reread the summary, after I began reading the book, I was rather surprised that I had signed up for this tour. It is not the type of book that I usually enjoy, and it deals with some thing that are a bit outside of my comfort zone. However, I did end up enjoying this book, although I did not love it.

Anna irritated me a lot. I get that her family life absolutely sucked, but I felt like that was not an excuse for her behavior. She was rude, indecisive, and frustrating. That pretty much lasted for the entire book, but, thankfully, I loved Kat. Kat was pretty much the opposite of Anna in every way. She was adventurous, caring, and thoughtful. I felt like Anna abused Kat’s friendship throughout the book, but at the same time, I did enjoy the bond between them.

I generally love books about road trips, but this one did not wow me as much as many do. I liked Kat, and some of the people that Anna and Kat meet were interesting. The journey is just somewhat random, strange. I disliked the author’s tone regarding religion. It did not seem as much a natural part of the story as the author’s own beliefs being impressed upon it.

Overall, I think this may have been worth the read, but I am not sure if I will read the author’s next book. There were elements of the story that I enjoyed, such as Kat! I loved her, cannot say that enough, but there were so many things I disliked. Anna is the perfect example of this, I could not relate to her at all, and she was supposed to be a sympathetic character. I am not sure I would recommend this one, but I am sure that there are some who will find it enjoyable.

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Review: In Honor

Honor receives her brother’s last letter from Iraq three days after learning that he died, and opens it the day his fellow Marines lay the flag over his casket. Its contents are a complete shock: concert tickets to see Kyra Kelly, her favorite pop star and Finn’s celebrity crush. In his letter, he jokingly charged Honor with the task of telling Kyra Kelly that he was in love with her.

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